On Moving, Moving On

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Impatient?

We’ve all probably felt this way before. Impatience is a strong emotion that stimulates your sense of urgency. This is often due to having a desire to do something, but outside sources are preventing you from doing that thing at that instance.

Example: Have you ever been really anxious for a new movie or video-game to come out?  It probably feels like that moment or day will never come. Well, getting over the impatience is easy… just find something else to do to occupy your time. Simply go have fun doing something else. They say that time flies when you’re having fun!

How about this one?  Have you ever been really bored in a class, itching for it to end so you can move on to something more exciting?  You know what . . . just be patient and try to get the most out of it. There’s not much you can do in that case. But here’s something to consider . . . A lot of times being bored in a class is due to a person’s lack of paying attention.  So what do you do?  You guessed it . . . pay attention!  When you allow your ears to hear and your brain to process the information, you’ll see how the subject suddenly becomes interesting.  It’s just a matter of not letting your mind wander. If you are actively involved in class, the time will seem to go by much faster, and consequently, your impatience will go away.

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March 27, 2011 Posted by | Emotions | , , , , | Leave a comment

Cabin Fever Got the Best of You?

It happens to most of us.  Let’s face it . . . if you live in a cold climate during the winter, being cooped up indoors for months on end due to cold and unfriendly weather conditions can get to you and make you crazy. Boredom sets in, you might find yourself getting easily bothered, and you might even feel depressed.

So what can we do about this?

Well, how about finding ways to enjoy the outdoors when it’s not too bad out.  The snow can be so much fun to play in.  Of course there’s sledding, making snow forts and snow sculptures.  You can make random connecting trails in the snow with your feet to create the chase & capture game of cat & mouse with a few friends – this is a riot and will really warm you up!  There’s also both downhill and cross-country skiing, snowboarding, and ice-skating where it’s safe. All these activities can make living in a winter climate really enjoyable.  They’re fun, they warm you up, and you burn off energy!

Otherwise, if the outside is not your thing, you’ll just have to get creative indoors.  This is a great time to break out the board games, and the deck of cards that have been sitting in the closet.  Also a great time learn to play a musical instrument, and for craft projects, painting, drawing, cooking, and learning just about anything you might consider to be a fun hobby.  This is also an excellent time to clear out the clutter and rearrange your room. 

And remember . . . winter doesn’t last forever.  Fortunately we have 3 other seasons to enjoy, and spring is just around the corner!

March 1, 2011 Posted by | Emotions | , , , , | Leave a comment

Confidence- Why Is This So Important?

What is it? 
Confidence is being sure of oneself; having no uncertainty. Confidence is when you believe in yourself and you aren’t afraid of what might happen. A confident individual knows that they have the power to accomplish anything.

Why is it important?  
Confidence is crucial to achieve success. People like being around others who are confident.  People respect others who are confident.  People feel confident around others who are confident and feel they can trust the confident person.  People want to do business with others who are confident. Image a hairstylist for example who wasn’t confident.  Would you pay them to sit in their chair and cut your hair if they can’t even handle the scissors properly?

How do you achieve confidence?
It’s all about putting yourself in the proper mindset. Keep telling yourself, that you will do well at anything you set your mind to. And keep practicing things that you may be afraid of.  As you continue to get better through repetition, this will boost your confidence and will help you overcome the fears that hold you back.

And remember, if you want respect (and who doesn’t) be confident and be nice.  That’s a winning combination!

February 25, 2011 Posted by | Emotions, Success | , , , , | Leave a comment

Feeling down? Crank up the music!

We should all recognize that music is very powerful. It’s not just some beat that we like listening to… It’s much more than that. Music has the power to affect our emotions and feelings. When you’re feeling upset or down about something unfortunate that just happened, don’t listen to songs about sadness… that’s just feeding into the negative emotions. Instead, counter those unhappy feelings with positivity. Turn on some upbeat music! When you’re listening to something pleasant, you’re taking your mind off of the negative thoughts that were going on in your mind. But what if you like those unhappy kinds of songs? Fine… listen to them all you want, but just not when you’re down.  That’ll make you feel worse.  Remember, let the music help you get back into a healthy frame of mind.  Make good music a part of your life!

January 26, 2011 Posted by | Emotions | , , | 1 Comment

Pets – How They Help You!

Did you know that playing with pets can reduce stress, improve your health and make your day better?  Dogs and cats are great pets to have because they respond to you and show affection.  They accept you as you are (unconditional love) and they don’t argue with you.  Typically, they love to be wanted and give you a greater sense of purpose.  Just playing with or petting a dog or cat can calm you down & relax you.   This can put a smile on your face and be a major benefit to reduce or eliminate  stress.  Consequently, because stress is a major cause of all sorts of health issues, this de-stressing with your pet can help prevent illness.  Pretty cool, huh?

I know it works for me.  I have a dog who always greets me very excitedly whenever I’ve been away and come home.  Seeing her like that immediately lifts my spirits.  I also enjoy playing with her & relaxing with her too.  In that past I’ve had cats & horses.  They’re great as well because they’re so appreciative.  I use to have an aquarium and a koi pond, and even though you don’t pet fish and they don’t really respond to you other than feeding time, just watching them swim relaxes you and has the same stress-reducing benefits. Relaxation is one of the vital keys to achieving happiness and good health.

January 17, 2011 Posted by | Emotions | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Try this little trick!

What is a Positive Attitude?

I figured I should cover this since I’ve been talking a lot about keeping a positive attitude in most of my posts. And quite frankly, a lot of people either don’t know what it means to be positive, or they know it but choose not to practice making positivity a part of their lives. Many people don’t even know that they’ve developed a habit of negative thinking.  What I mean by this is they tend to look for or “see” bad things in a situation.  They tend to be very skeptical and untrusting in a way that becomes unhealthy. 

So let me try to make this practical:  Being positive is when you think about good things. You imagine an optimistic outcome to every situation, even when times get really tough. You’ve probably heard this one before… imagine the glass half-full instead of half-empty. Simply think in happy ways, don’t think that the world is out to get you or that you’re destined for failure, because that’s simply not true.  You’re actually programmed to win . . . you just need to tap into that program! 

Really consider how you’ve been thinking lately… Have you been angry or frustrated a lot ? Then think about things that make you happy and put you in a good mood. You’ll be surprised at how a simple transition of thoughts can change your mood and make your experience in your day so much better!  It’s a great place to start . . . then watch your life change for the better!

January 10, 2011 Posted by | Emotions, Success | , , , , | 1 Comment

Dealing With Change

Are you more attracted to keeping things the way they are, or are you happy to experience change. Well if you’re afraid of change, or just don’t like undergoing change, then its time to change that (no pun intended).  Why do I say that?  Because you’re going to experience changes all the time, it’s just a natural occurrence of life. I speak from experience especially where it comes to big changes. You probably already know that I have moved from a school that I truly loved going to where I had a lot of close friends and great teachers.  From there, I went to a school I knew nothing about.  I could have let this freak me out, but what good would that do?  So I just started to imagine all the things I wanted in a new school and worked on making that happen.

You have to understand that change can be a good thing! It’s important to not look at changes like it’s going to be the end of the world. Always keep a positive attitude and consider all the good that can come about from what has changed in your life. Trying new things and exploring what life has to offer can be both fun and very rewarding!

I know that many of us become attached to the way things are because we’re used to it . . . it feels “comfortable”.  This can make us want to resist change even though it may be exactly what we need.  But life is not stagnant, and changes will happen whether we want them or not.  It’s far better to work with those changes rather than work against them.  Behind the initial discomfort of change, you will likely find excitement and energy that will enrich your life.  Just trust the changes that come and trust yourself to embrace them.

January 6, 2011 Posted by | Emotions, Success | , , | Leave a comment

Happiness – How To Achieve it, How To Maintain It

A lot of people think that happiness is out there somewhere and they have to go and get it.  The truth of it is, it’s within you and you just have to uncover it. 

Well, how do you do that when it seems so elusive at times? 

One word – gratitude.

 Look at your life and recognize the good in it.  Make a list of all the things that are good and that you are grateful for.   Some of the things you should be grateful for might be overlooked or taken for granted.  But imagine what it would be like if they didn’t exist!

If you have a tough time starting this list, look around you.  Be grateful for the roof over your head, the water you drink and clean with, your food, your books, pencils, paper, TV, toys etc.  Most of us are surrounded by material things that help us.   More importantly, look at yourself.  If you have eyes to see, ears to hear, legs to walk with, hands to do things with, the ability to speak ; you should be grateful for whatever physical attributes you have.  Also list your accomplishments.  What have you done?  Can you read, ride a bike, play an instrument, make someone smile? 

When you start making a list, you’ll see that you have a lot to be grateful for.  Gratitude is a feeling of well-being which brings about happiness.  You can’t feel good and bad at the same time.  So if you start to dwell on what you don’t have, or what’s missing, immediately start thinking of everything you’re grateful for.  Happiness can then come to you which will give you the energy to create what it is you do want or what you feel might be missing.

Look at it this way:  Happiness is like Dorothy and the ruby slippers on the Wizard of Oz.  She always had the power to get what she wanted; she just had to recognize that she did and discover how to use it.  Same goes for you.  Happiness is with you.  Know it, discover it, and use it!

July 21, 2010 Posted by | Emotions | , , | Leave a comment